Tuesday 19 October 2010

Selina, My Old Friend, Where Have You Been?

I’ve neglected this blog and my online buddies recently as I’ve been catching up with my real-life friends. I suddenly realised that I hadn’t seen enough of the people I care for and that apart from work events, I rarely go out now.

The old Selina was constantly entertaining or going out to friends’ houses or events with Ewan and the family. I don’t know when it stopped but at some stage I just got very tired of it and lost all enthusiasm and I just wanted to be at home at the weekend, in my pyjamas, watching X-Factor and Strictly Come Dancing !!

I’m sure it was to do with that period of depression that I went through when I didn’t really want to make the effort to engage with others. But when I was off sick last month, I couldn’t stop thinking of how things used to be and I felt very strongly that I needed to reconnect with everyone.

So, over the last four or five weeks, we have had friends over to dinner and lunch at the weekends or been out to parties (oh, and a wedding) and this last weekend we had a party which was great. It felt so lovely having everyone over again and I forgot how much I love cooking for others and putting on a spread. I feel quite exhuausted now though as I don’t have the stamina I once had and preparing everything and clearing up afterwards takes longer than it used to but still, it feels so right.

I think the real Selina is slowly and surely on her way back !

10 comments:

  1. nice. sounds like you have been in some fun here of late...dont worry the stamina will come back the more you flex those muscles...smiles. great to see you!

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  2. Harrumph! Real life friends as compared with us mere avatars.

    You like cooking for others: Excellent, I'm partial to a chateaubriand - rare with an excellent first growth Claret.

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  3. Sometimes we need to cocoon ourselves to find ourselves again... glad to hear you're on your way back; you've been missed.

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  4. It sounds like you've been having fun - great news!

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  5. Maybe we should have a wee party here, looks like Barry has already got started anyway! I'll get the drinks on, pre-dinner cocktails I think. This will be great and bugger all clearing up to do!
    Right, now then have you got a shaker and some ice?

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  6. I totally understand this feeling and I too have been revelling in face to face chats over coffee with colleagues - I've still got to develop a gang for meals round a happy table.

    As good as virtual friendships are - nothing beats the smiles and frissons from real bodies.

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  7. Glad to see that you are appearing from beneath the gunk of life. Long may it continue.

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  8. Good for you for being back in the swing. We go through stages in that regard and sometimes I find I want to completely retreat. However, my parents both became completely isolated and that is something I need to guard against.

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  9. Good to read you. Ive been without a computer for two monnths now and am reduced to an iphone. I enjoy my solitarity but once in a while i do enjoy entertaining.

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  10. Sounds good fun, but don't forget us all! x

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