tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post7930626782135819539..comments2023-10-28T16:40:30.306+01:00Comments on Selina Kingston Is Forty: Trying To TalkSelina Kingstonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01515746813047397411noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-69699549655233566662009-08-30T09:10:56.286+01:002009-08-30T09:10:56.286+01:00Meggie – thank you. The trouble is I have been pu...Meggie – thank you. The trouble is I have been putting myself first since I began this affair with Matt and it’s not right<br /><br />Steve – thank you. You’re right about thinking about him. I’ve only really looked at this from my perspective treating him a bit like the bad boy who has been out for some fun. But something has changed recently and I think he is taking it all more seriously ….but then why do I still get the feeling that’s all part of his game??<br /><br />Sag – thank you. I will search out that book. Getting a counsellor, considering why I’m doing this ….it all needs introspection and that frightens me as I don’t know what devils will come out. I started writing the blog in a bid to help myself. Not quite sure it’s working but maybe I need to go back and read what I’ve actually written !!<br /><br />NPT – thank you<br /><br />Deirdre – thank you. My gut is proving a very dangerous thing to trust …..<br /><br />Owen – thank you. There’s no love in this. There was never meant to be and there never will be on my part. There’s only one-sided conversation that comes from him because I don’t want him to know too much or get in too close. It’s about sex…and attention. Nobody offered it before or showed an interest and if I’m honest that might be why I’m scared to finish it because as I’m getting older, male attention which I have thrived on, if not acted upon, is going to disappear and that will leave me the sad old woman that I have dreaded becoming!<br /><br />Wow guys – THANK YOU! I haven’t done this individual answering of comments before and actually it has proved quite therapeutic in that it has made me think and address what I’m doing rather than just recording it. Feels slightly self indulgent though! <br />I’m very lucky to have such a wise bunch of readers xxxSelina Kingstonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01515746813047397411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-62525426771746378332009-08-27T19:43:30.626+01:002009-08-27T19:43:30.626+01:00Sounds like there is more lust than love in this d...Sounds like there is more lust than love in this description... guess it depends on what you are really after in the short term and long term... Who was it who said one should never enter a relationship with someone with whom a good conversation is not possible... as the sex can be found anywhere anytime ? Or something to that effect... Good luck...Owenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12622587942009516590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-76254965545563878712009-08-26T09:55:32.253+01:002009-08-26T09:55:32.253+01:00Wow - I concur with these wise folks. Do what *you...Wow - I concur with these wise folks. Do what *you* got to do. And also, trust your gut.Deidrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14993934232617420348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-14726835740854109932009-08-26T03:24:23.486+01:002009-08-26T03:24:23.486+01:00take care......take care......NPThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11568982374817353605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-89130185800303831452009-08-25T22:23:50.360+01:002009-08-25T22:23:50.360+01:00I think you should read Love and Garbage by Ivan K...I think you should read Love and Garbage by Ivan Klima.<br />And put yourself first (thanks Meggie), and it probably wouldn't hurt to consider what you really want from this. Is it just the sex? You can't fix things elsewhere if you've got your eye on another ball (so to speak!! oops). Maybe a counsellor would be good, especially as you're probably still got a few things going on with your dear friends death.<br />be kind to yourself too. Hugs, xx.The Sagittarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05513045101496737031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-34728947036896080562009-08-25T18:27:46.188+01:002009-08-25T18:27:46.188+01:00You ignore your instincts at your peril... I feel ...You ignore your instincts at your peril... I feel a party pooper for saying it but I've been there. You need to get out now, for his sake as much as yours. <br /><br />And yet, and yet... you must do as Meggie says above: put yourself first. Look after yourself. Self preservation is a wonderful thing and sometimes it is the righteous thing to do.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7647759773156918903.post-21219466004195183452009-08-25T09:51:37.437+01:002009-08-25T09:51:37.437+01:00Whichever way this goes, it does not look like it ...Whichever way this goes, it does not look like it will be easy.<br />Don't forget to put yourself first!Meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13074676856646898900noreply@blogger.com